Love is the ultimate healing energy. We lack giving and receiving love.
Our feelings of isolation and loneliness breed mistrust, misunderstandings, competition, antagonism and the whole series of health destroying emotions such as fear, anger, hatred, jealousy, bitterness, resentment etc. These negative emotions build up a personality complex of their own, and grow out of the control destroying our health and relationships.
Learning to accept and love ourselves and others despite our faults, weaknesses, habits and mistakes is a powerful means for healing ourselves and others.
By developing more deeply
rooted feelings of security and self-worth, we enable ourselves to understand, forgive and love others and ourselves in more and more situations.
The following thoughts may
help us in that process.
We are all souls in a process
We are all controlled by our ignorance and fear, which cause us to function in less than perfect ways. Thus, it is logical to accept and
love ourselves and others even though we are not perfect and make mistakes.
This can be understood more clearly through some examples.
Two broken legs.
If we know someone who has
two broken legs and for this reason is unable to carry out his or her responsibilities or be very productive or creative, we automatically understand
that they cannot do any more, because they have two broken legs.
What we fail to understand
is that many of people who we perceive as lazy, irresponsible or negative and even immoral have in fact two of their "emotional legs" broken. They have seriously impaired emotional legs of "inner
security" and feelings of "self-worth".
Their insecurity and feelings of self-doubt cause them to behave in negative ways. We, too, might be such persons who have had their inner strength handicapped by negative childhood experiences. Thus we would do well to understand and love ourselves and others even when we are not able to be who we would like to be.
does not mean that we do not recognize and admit our mistakes and weakness and seek to improve ourselves and free ourselves from those obstacles so that we can manifest our inner potential on all levels.
accepting others does not mean that we do not assertively explain to them the types of behavior that we need from them.
An incomplete painting is
not yet in its perfected form. It is in the process of being perfected, of being completed. We know that it is not completed
because consciously or subconsciously we know that it can be much more than it presently is. But we do not reject the painting
because it is not yet what it will be. We do not say that it is wrong or unacceptable. We simply perceive it as incomplete and we attend to the process of completing it.
Let us then imagine that our
and others? personalities are half-finished paintings. Let us perceive the general state of the society and world around as
a painting in progress.
Yes, there are many weaknesses,
faults and aspects to be improved in those paintings. But they are what they can and should be for their incomplete stage. A painting
must pass through a series of stages until it is finally completed. Each of these stages is a perfect part of that process
of completion. No stage could be skipped or avoided.
Thus, we and those around
us are "perfect" at every stage of that process of completion. We and everything around us is at a stage in the process of
perfection. Even our imperfections are a perfect temporary part of our movement towards perfection.
When we perceive ourselves
and others as unfinished paintings, we will have patience and understanding for our mutual weaknesses and faults. We will perceive them as parts of our
being which need to be worked on in the process of manifesting our perfect being, which is waiting latent within us to become a reality.
The same of course holds for
those around us who are in a process of perfecting their unfinished paintings.
The Bud and the Flower.
A flower bud does not yet
manifest its latent beauty. Yet we do not reject, criticize or condemn it. We realize that it is in a process and that it
is what it needs to be now in order to become the flower which it is destined to be. We accept
it is as it is and wait patiently for its blossoming.
In the same way we need to perceive ourselves and others as:
- Paintings in the process
of completing ourselves.
- Buds becoming flowers.
in the process of evolution.
We all deserve love and respect exactly as we are.
Our life purpose, however,
is to attend to the process of evolution and self-perfection until we blossom into the magnificent and totally conscientious
and loving beings that we are destined to be. Source: http://www.healthguidance.org/authors/254/Robert-Elias-Najemy
Robert Elias Najemy
Robert Elias Najemy is the author of over
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